Christ Quest Institute

Emotional Divorce is a common product of an unsatisfactory relationship. It takes place deep inside a person, within their human spirit. Although a person may feel like they have satisfied God because they did not go through the process of getting a “legal divorce,” they only think that because they do not realize the “God looks upon the heart.” (1 Samuel 16.7)

 God’s displeasure about divorce is based upon attitudes within the heart. God does not qualify or disqualify divorce merely because paperwork has, or has not, been accomplished in a courtroom.

IF THE TRUTH WERE KNOWN

If it is true that attitudes of the heart are the key to whether or not a person is divorced, and then maybe this booklet might give you knew grounds for reevaluating the condition of your marriage.

If you discover that your marriage is a victim of Emotional Divorce, you are not alone.

If an interview with every Christian couple were possible, and each person had no choice but to reveal the secret attitudes of their hearts, it would not be surprising to discover the following statistics: 

    . Among Women, at least 75% are already experiencing the struggles of Emotional Divorce

    . Among men, at least 25% are already experiencing the struggles of Emotional Divorce. 

What is the reason for this striking statistical difference between men and women? Women are usually more emotionally functional if life than men. They sense a negative emotional atmosphere in a marriage sooner than do most men, and are more quickly engulfed by those negative emotions than are most men. 

Let the following, typical scenario serve as supporting evidence: It is very common for husbands to be passive about pursuing marriage problems; waiting until their wives are ready to leave, then they believe things are serious enough to seek help.

Those husbands typically in shock, say, “My wife is leaving me?” When asked, “Why?” the typical husband responds, “I don’t know. She won’t tell me!” In his mind, he is not trying to be deceitful!

So what is to be done? 

DIVORCE CANNOT BE AN OPTION!

A person seeking divorce is NOT looking for a SOLUTION; divorce is a CONCLUSION. When seeking a solution, an individual is working for continuation, seeking to bring life back into the marriage. A conclusion, on the other hand, signals an end in a person’s thinking (death to a marriage).  And human nature usually goes for the easy conclusion. Far too many people get married embracing the “easy conclusion” of divorce as a future option. Such a mind-set does not demand that a person find a solution!

Once divorce is accepted as an option, what is there to compel a person to search for solutions? However, if there is not possibility of divorce; if no alternative, then a person will refuse to give up until solutions are found!

Even for Christians, that kind of determination is possible only when a person’s relationship with God is serious enough that disobedience causes them great discomfort. They will not change their doctrine about divorce even when circumstances seem impossible. 

It’s worth repeating…Divorce cannot be an option! There are answers!

THERE IS A CURE FOR EMOTIONAL DIVORCE!